Ashley Paculba, LMFT #146705 · Telehealth across California

You've already survived the hardest days. Let's make the next ones lighter.

I'm Ashley Paculba, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist helping anxious brains, people living with OCD and BDD, first responders, and families rebuilding after separation find solid ground again.

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Maybe you're here because…

OCD & anxiety

Your brain won't drop it.

The checking, the reassurance-seeking, the what-ifs on repeat. You know it doesn't fully make sense, and it still feels urgent.

BDD

The mirror keeps getting the final word.

You've studied one feature more closely than anyone else ever will, and it's quietly taking over your mornings, your plans, your peace.

Co-parenting

Every handoff feels like a hearing.

You love your kids. Communicating with their other parent is another story, and maybe there's a court order involved now too.

First responders

You're everyone's calm in the crisis.

Dispatch, patrol, the fire line, the ER. You hold it together on shift, and home is where it all catches up with you.

Don't see yourself here? You don't need the right words yet. Finding them together is kind of my job.

How I can help

Kids, teens, adults, couples and co-parents. Evidence-based care, delivered like a real conversation. See all specialties

Anxious brains & big feelings

OCDExposure-based treatment to break the cycle of obsessions and compulsions, including the mental ones.
Body Dysmorphic DisorderSpecialized care for appearance preoccupation, mirror checking and camouflaging.
Anxiety disordersPanic, generalized anxiety, health anxiety, social anxiety and phobias.
Tic disorders & BFRBsHabit Reversal Training for tics, skin picking, hair pulling and other body-focused repetitive behaviors.
Trauma & first respondersCognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) for PTSD and the weight of the job.
Life transitionsDivorce, new roles, loss, big moves and all the in-between seasons.

Families & relationships

Court-involved co-parenting therapyStructured, skills-based work for co-parents navigating family court, with clear roles from day one.
Parenting coordinationHelping high-conflict co-parents resolve day-to-day disputes and keep kids out of the middle.
Couples therapyGottman Method (Levels 1 & 2) for partners stuck in the same argument and ready for a new one. (Kidding. Mostly.)
Children, teens & adolescentsAge-appropriate care that meets young people where they are, with parents looped in.
Individual therapy for adultsA space that's just yours, for whatever you're carrying right now.
because you deserve more than good intentions

Specialized training

Gottman Method Couples TherapyLevel 1 and Level 2 training from The Gottman Institute.
New Ways for FamiliesSkills-based method for separating and high-conflict families.
Massachusetts General HospitalTraining in the treatment of Body Dysmorphic Disorder.
NOCDTraining in OCD, anxiety disorders, tic disorders and BFRBs.
Cognitive Processing TherapyEvidence-based treatment for trauma and PTSD.
Dialectical Behavior TherapySkills for emotional regulation, communication and healthy boundaries.
Compassion Focused TherapyQuieting the inner critic and building self-compassion.
For attorneys, mediators & minor's counsel

Court-involved therapy works best when everyone knows the role.

I keep boundaries clear, communicate within the limits of each order and signed release, and help co-parents build skills they can actually use between hearings. Trained in New Ways for Families.

Referral information
no perfect words required

Ready when you are.

Reaching out is often the hardest step. Book a free 15-minute call and we'll figure out together whether we're a good fit.

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